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Bring that sexy MOM to life

By January 29, 2017 Being Mom, Everyday life

It’s all to easy to grab those sweatpants, and an old, baggy shirt in the morning. The cozier the better…..right? You have a ton of work to do, get the kids breakfast, pick up, break up battles, the list goes on and on….who has time for makeup, hair and decent clothes?

WELL I SAY NO NO NO……WRONG

You need to feel confident, sexy and OWN your MOM status. Let me give some tips on how to rock and feel completely satisfied with your mind and body.

  1. Put on Nice clothes-

     

     

    It is so easy to grab those beat up sweats and oversized tee to start your day. Instead grab those nice fitting jeans and your sexy panties, put on that new shirt you have yet to wear, and rock that new outfit. OK, your not going out…..doesn’t matter. The outfit will boost your confidence and make your sexy come out. You will find the motivation, and be ready to take on the day!

  2. Wear some makeup

    Not a makeup person?…..well start. I’m not talking about looking like you are going clubbing, or out on a hot date. Apply a little eye colour, and grab that neutral lipstick. Its amazing how a little lipstick, can bring that sexy out. When you thought it was going to be a stay in day, I guarantee you will want to go out, and do that grocery shopping. It is a huge boost.

  3. Quick Hair Do

    we are all guilty of it. Throwing our hair up in a ponytail. its easy and it works. But try some of the easy, sexy hair do’s on youtube. a messy bun, a braid, or a funky pony, or just let it down with curls or straightening. These take a few extra minutes, but will pull everything together. Feeling good about yourself will boost everything in your life. The way you look at your day, your motivation, even the way you talk and respond to people.

 

We have all struggled with taking care of ourselves, when we have our precious little ones. Their needs come first, so being comfy is easy. But for one day, try these tips. Take care of you, feel confident, feel sexy. And the way you take on your day will change.

BRING THAT SEXY MOM TO LIFE

 

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Overwhelmed with my sons diagnosis of Celiac

By January 23, 2017 Being Mom, Everyday life, health

Colten has been under the weather for nearly 5 months. At first I jumped to the conclusion, he is a kid, they spread sickness like the speed of light at school. It started with random vomiting, and moaning his stomach hurt. Progressively he seemed to be complaining more, and more. His burps got worse, with every meal we was burping and regurgitating his food. It started to become very concerning and uneasy.

The doctors appointment was made, and thank goodness. He seemed to be getting progressively worse by the day. The feeling of helplessness is unbearable for a parent. Knowing your child is hurting, and you have no control or super power to make it better. I spent countless nights up with Colten crying on the toilet, asking me to take him to the hospital. I had hospital trips, that ended in 6 hour waits to be sent home.

Finally last Thursday, we got the news. Colten is Celiac ( we have some further tests) Fantastic, right I found out. Now I feel like there is some control over the situation. My whole lifestyle needs to be changed in a few days, wow overwhelming.

I never realized the amount of products we eat with wheat, rye and barley. Our complete diet needs to be switched. How hard is that for a 5 year old, my heart melts for him.

I look at this situation, with overwhelm but joy. Joy of now we know. Overwhelm for Colten, how this affects every aspect of his life, and what a hard thing to understand for a 5 year old.  I know we will conquer the Celiac diet, and adapt to it, but what a lifestyle shocker.

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No milk for my morning COFFEE…….

By January 19, 2017 Being Mom, Everyday life, health

There was no 5:30am wake up this morning, the luxury of sleeping in until 630 was fantastic. Colten has a doctor’s appointment, so lucky duck, gets the day off school. What could go wrong right. A easy morning wake up, only 2 clients and a doctors appointment.

Well my 630 wake up, became not so pleasant, as I’m laying there realizing, I have no milk in my fridge for morning coffee. Coffee is my morning motivator, the thing that makes my chaotic rush, not so chaotic. let’s just say coffee is my MORNING. All of a sudden things took a turn, I jumped up, got dressed. Timmies run it is.

Getting Colten ready took 30min, and of course he was convinced the dogs needed a car ride. 30min later boots and coat are on, dogs on the leash, and my hair is getting pulled out. Piled up in the car, I took the quick route to Timmies, back alley to pass the stop lights, a biker is swerving everywhere and right in front of my car. Brakes get slammed, and my poor pup head hits the dash board.”Come on buddy, watch where your going. I don’t even have my coffee yet”. hes lucky my reflexes were even that good.

I rush back home, a quick dog walk, and then I can relax and enjoy my morning. Colten tells me he is walking joey (joey is our Yorkie-poo 1 year old puppy) he is stubborn, my trouble maker child. He chases cars, barks at everyone, and has one hell of an attitude. Colten with muffin in hand, grabs the leash, and there goes joey, leash and all. Running does the street, like he has never experienced freedom. As I am chasing him with my other dog in my hand and coffee in the other, coffee is spilling everywhere. Great here comes a car. I thought it was the end of joey. Runs right in front of the car. The nice lady had time to stop…great now I’m the crazy swerving biker, I can just imagine her thoughts…come on lady get you shit together, your hand are full, hairs a mess, you look like a disaster. ( I should have not been out in public looking like this.)

Pick up joey, now with my half empty coffee, with not even a sip out of. Head back home. Colten is yelling at me “mom be careful, he could have died, how would you feel, if that happened to you. Don’t yell at joey, he is just a baby” oh my compassionate child.

My relaxing morning turned into a chaotic, possible 2 collision, arguing morning.with a half empty coffee.

Can someone please bring me MILK. Mornings without coffee are not my strong point. I need to stock up on milk.

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New town, New school, New Friends!

By January 18, 2017 Being Mom, Everyday life

The 2 month build up of excitement is finally here. The first day of a brand new school.

With a recent move under our belt to a brand new town, new friends, and a new life adventure. I have tried my absolute hardest to make this transition for my 5 year old an easy one. With the move going smoothly, and great new exciting things to do in the town, Colten was more then excited to start his new school and meet new friends.

“It’s always harder for the parents”. I made it my mission not to show Colten my anxiety of him walking into a new classroom, with new faces and having to start over, half way through the year.

Lunch was packed before we went to bed, clothes set out for the morning. Wake up came and the morning went better then expected. He was still ready to take the jump into the new adventure. We walked into the new classroom, as my anxiety was soaring for him. I looked down and Colten was gripping onto my leg, looking at all the new faces sitting in a circle at carpet time. My heart dropped. Right then and there I wanted to scoop him up, and take him back to his old school.

I had to be brave for him. We unpacked his bag, put on his indoor shoes and ventured to the carpet.

The teachers immediately incorporated him into the activity, as he sat there quietly assessing the new surroundings, I left with my eyes swelling.  That day at work, I couldn’t stop thinking about “who is he playing with at recess” “is he making any friends”. I left at 2 and rushed to the school to rescue him.  To my surprise, he had a GREAT day. Made a new friend, and loved the teachers.

My little man is much braver then me. New adventures are hard, and scary. But my little man jumped in with both feet. Proud Mommy Moment

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30Day Weight Gaining Challenge

By January 17, 2017 Everyday life

As many of my followers know. I face the challenge of being naturally skinny(wonderful…right????) Well for me, it has been a life long challenge. When I am stressed I lose weight, and when I lose weight, putting it back on is near impossible.

I have made the decision, that TODAY is my Day.1 of The weight gain challenge. For many of you, I know this  seems ridiculous, and unheard of, but for the small percentage of us who struggle with gaining weight. This blog is for you!

Since I find it extremely rare to find a “really good” weight gaining diet plan, I have created my own (with lots of research of course). My challenge will be a 30 day challenge, which “fingers crossed” will transform into my lifestyle.

END GOAL is to gain 8-10lbs within the 30 day challenge. I will post updates daily on My food plan, exercises, lifestyle change, and pictures of progress.  For all of you out there in the same circle as me, I hope you enjoy, and can transform your lifestyle and body with me. If you know someone who can benefit from my 30 Day challenge, please forward the blog. Let’s Help EACHOTHER.

DAY: 1

Starting Weight: 90lbs

Height: 5ft 1

For my weight and height I need about 1800 calories a day to maintain my weight (use a calorie calculator to find your results.)

For weight Gain: I need to increase my calories to 2,400 a day (but lets not just calorie count, we want this to be healthy with protein and proper food too)

MEALS:

Breakfast: yogurt with granola. homemade carrot, pumpkin and chocolate chip muffin, homemade protein bars (780 calories without the muffin)

( homemade protein bars contain 600calories for 2×2 square. I made them to increase my calorie intake by 1200 a day with 2 bars Easy-Peezy High Calorie Survival Bars – 3 ) I changed the recipe slightly by adding vegan -pea protein, hemp hearts, and white chocolate chunks)

Snack: almonds, bannana

Lunch: Greek Pasta with chick peas

Snack: Homemade protein bar (600 calories)

Supper: Chicken, and sweet potato fries.

Snack: creamy havarti cheese with wheat thin crackers

EXERCISE:

we are going to start TODAY off easy just 2 sets of squats and lunges ( 10 in a set) just to get our muscles motivated, and get the muscle memory there for tomorrow.

We don’t want to shock our bodies to much today with all the changes. Let that food feed and nourish our bodies today!

My DAY 1 Body Picture

As Day ONE  winds to an end. BE PROUD of yourself, feel confident. You will not see results today. but you will feel GREAT from the increased calorie and protein intake (and think of all those added vitamins), also that little bit of squats and lunges should give your body a little boost.

Now’s a great time to start thinking of tomorrow. Why not pack your lunch and snack for work tomorrow.

A nice turkey sandwich, with creamy havarti cheese, almonds, a yogurt and  a banana, and don’t forget your survival PROTEIN BARS

Hope you all enjoyed, and see you TOMORROW

 

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When do we start making decisions for US?

By January 16, 2017 Being Mom, Everyday life, health

One of the most taxing situations an individual can encounter is ridicule from within their own family circle. The feeling of being over analyzed and harshly judged from the ones we hold dearest to us is enough to send our bodies into mental distress.

The “need” to please our parents (or think we should) is programmed into our heads as a young child. Wanting to score that goal to make them proud, getting an “A” on that spelling test, to run home and earn satisfaction from the ones we cherish. These little acts are imprinted onto us and brought into our everyday adulthood.

But when do we start directing our lives for us?

It was the year I had my son, I became conscious of the whole situation. I have become a responsible adult, fully capable of making appropriate, and healthy decisions for my families future. However, I could not do it without my family’s ridicule. It seemed the littlest decision I would make would be accompanied with a phone call, and a million reasons why it is wrong and why I should change it to their desire. I changed every aspect of my life, my parenting, my social life, my employment. All of this to cater to my families need and reasoning how my life should be ran; hoping deep down they would look at me with satisfaction and respect my inner child longed for. Most of the decisions I made to please and satisfy their needs would completely turn my world upside down. It made things more difficult than need be, running around like a headless chicken bending to everyone’s whim. I became stressed, run down, lost 20lbs (when I was too skinny already), my life became a hectic and chaotic mess. Was it all worth the trials and tribulations just to have that feeling of approval?

 

The approval never came, it was a constant judgement on every aspect and detail of my life. 6 months ago, I finally came to the conclusion, this life is for me and my son. It is ours and ours only. Things started to change. I had to distance myself from my family, make decisions without approval, and do what was best for us. Life got easier, the running around lessened, my stress decreased, and my weight… well I’m still working on that one.

It was the hardest, and still one of the most difficult decisions to make. My heart wants their support and approval, but my brain knows the best for us. The urge to please our family, is stuck in our emotional upbringing, even when it comes with criticism and disapproval. My advice to everyone experiencing this: distance yourself, make your own decision without making that phone call, or text message. Choose the life that makes it easier, less stress, and most importantly happier…and see how things transform for the better.

Family is a wonderful part of everyone’s life, don’t get me wrong, but at the end of the day what you make of this world is up to you and YOU alone.

 

 

 

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Reality of owning a small business

By January 12, 2017 entrepreneur, Everyday life, success

The idea of being your own boss, for most people is a dream. The ability to making your own hours, not answering to the higher ups, to run and live what you love. This is an all amazing concept, but…

What is the reality of Owning and running a small business?

1 Making your own hours- Yes, business owners do have the ability to make their own hours, schedules, and take holiday’s when they wish, does this happen? Sure it happens, by making our days 14 hours long, working during supper on the smart phone, showing up before and leaving after everyone. Holidays, may sometimes happen, but are often swept aside, Depending on how new the company is. That dream of short hours and large paychecks may not be the case.

2.Not Answering to a boss– To many, having to answer to the boss, is dreadful. Being your own boss is a dream in many people’s eyes. However, You are left with problem solving, payroll, marketing, leads, taxes, hiring and firing, balancing, the list goes on and on.

3. Mental and emotional hard times– Every entrepreneurs journey is a road with hills, curves, and forks. Often faced with numerous high and low moments,  depending on the decisions made during these low’s, success can feel almost impossible, leaving you left anxious and depressed. As motivation and drive are key factors to defeat the low’s, they often leave you facing a mental health and depression battle. Many highly successful entrepreneurs, have faced depression and suicidal thoughts in the early business years.

The dream of building an empire, and scrapping the employee card, may just be that to many….A DREAM. Unfortunately, many entrepreneurs start out with dreams, motivation, and strive to be successful, soon to be overwhelmed with hills and forks. Being a small business owner is not a career for everyone. It takes drive, motivation, stubbornness, fighting through mental health break downs, and much more to be successful.

  You’re going to feel overwhelmed and stressed at times, But if you have drive, motivation, fight, and stubbornness you will make it.

The key to success? Setting achievable goals and following through. Stay strong and your dream comfortable living is on the horizon.

 

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The importance of taking care of YOU.

By January 10, 2017 Being Mom, entrepreneur, Everyday life, health, success

Finding yourself run down all the time. Making yourself have energy to get to that sports game, to get groceries, or read that bedtime story. Working your butt off at your career, to come home and work your butt of at parenting.

Are we being the best we can be, by being completely run down, and running off fumes?

I find myself in this position, all to often. I want to be the best in my career, at parenting, and life. Putting all my energy into these categories, to find myself completely run down, exhausted, sick and making trips to the doctors. In reality. I am not being the best at my career, parenting or life. I am running around as a zombie. Forgetting things, getting upset at my son for not picking up lego, forgetting to make time with friends.

Its easy to get caught up in the moment, and live the fast life. We need to take a step back and care about our mental and physical health. Take that time for a coffee date, for a yoga session, and making good meals. These simple things we forget about, are actual the key ingredients to being great at your career, parenting and life.

When we feel good about our mental and physical state, It gives us the drive to succeed, the energy to continue on, the feeling of well being. It keeps us from burn outs and break downs.

YOUR HEALTH MATTERS

 

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How YOGA saved me from a BREAK DOWN!

By January 9, 2017 Being Mom, entrepreneur, Everyday life, health, success

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I am not extremely flexible. I am not 100% laid back all the time, I still get stress and anxiety on a regular basis.

So how did yoga change my daily stress? If I’m still experiencing it?

Yoga shows you ways of coping and managing your anxiety. recognizing what it is, and using techniques to lower  your bodies anxious reaction to the situation. Yoga will not take away the stressful situations, but it will give you the knowledge to control your bodies reaction to it.

2 years ago, At my sons art class, watching him through the glass as he splashed paint all over the place. I found myself gasping for air, my throat felt life I just had a severe allergic reaction and it was closing. My chest began to feel like it was collapsing. Looking at the other parents, I was waiting for their facial reactions. Thinking I probably looked like I was going to kick the bucket. I rushed to the bathroom to look at my face, nope not swollen. I called my friend, and made him meet me at my apartment in case I needed to go to the hospital. I was definitely having a heart attack….or so I thought. Toughing it out that night, not going to the hospital. I came to realize. Oh my god that is what an anxiety attack is.

From that point, I started experiencing numerous anxiety attacks a week. It was unbearable. They would happen at the oddest times. Driving to work, with music on and no traffic. Right before bedtime. I felt like I was losing control of every situation. Life wasn’t fun anymore. It was constant fear of these horrible attacks. Simple decisions became stressful. Something needed to change. I was headed for a serious BREAK DOWN

I STARTED WATCHING YOGA VIDEOS AT NIGHT AND IN THE MORNING

After research, and recommendations. I chose to start the yoga practice. I started with watching videos on Youtube. I would put my son to bed, make a tea, lay my mat on the floor with my laptop, and watch decreased anxiety videos. The first few nights, I noticed a bit of a difference. I could feel the stretches, and it was relaxing but was not decreasing my anxiety levels.

“This isn’t helping, I don’t need to get more flexible, I need to help my anxiety” angrily venting to a friend. I remember him saying. ” Sarah, you are not listening to your body. You are doing it only for the poses. Look past that, concentrate on your breath, and become one with your body”

I decided to keep trying, I mean what’s the harm. That night, I grabbed my Mat and tea, tuned in to YouTube. Really trying to focus on my breath. During that practice something changed. I remember like it was 2 minutes ago. It is like I could hear everything in my body. I lived in a high rise on a main street, and the traffic and sirens disappeared. Each pose , my breath took me into a deeper stretch and mental relaxation. I finished the video, grabbed my tea, and headed to the balcony. I was in complete ZEN. My mind was so clear, I don’t even think, I could remember my stresses at that point. All my visions and life seemed to make sense, and positive vibes were glowing from me.

The next morning I woke up an hour before my son, to do morning yoga “THIS IS IT, THIS IS MY ANXIETY MEDICATION” I practiced religiously every night and every morning. Each video bringing me into a better mind state.  The mornings I would feel energized for the day. Knowing that when stress appeared, i could handle it. The nights I would feel relaxed and free.

YOGA DOES NOT CURE ANXIETY, IT GIVES YOU THE TECHNIQUES TO CONTROL IT

Now I am not saying, my anxiety is completely gone, and that I no longer have any stress in my life.  Believe me with a business to run, a 5 year old son, 2 dogs and sports to attend life gets crazy. But yoga gave me the techniques to use when in those stressed situations, I can cope. It lets me connect with my body, to control my break downs and attacks.

Now as many think yoga is only for exercise, and you have to be flexible. YOU ARE WRONG!

For me yoga took me on a road to recovery from a BREAK DOWN.

“It’s not about touching my toes. Its about what i learned on the way down”

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Tips to Dating a Single Parent

By January 8, 2017 Being Mom, Everyday life

Dating a single parent has many up and downs, and is not the traditional dating you may be expecting. It is actually the complete opposite, like living on a whole different planet, and having to adapt to a new and ever changing atmospheric pressures, oxygen levels and lifestyles.  This new planet, is not a horrible or terrifying planet, but completely different from the planet we have grown so familar with.

People who make the decision and choose to date a single parent need to know, and be prepared for this new way of living.

  1. GOING ON DATES IS A CHALLENGE:

Going on random romantic dates, probably is not in the cards. ( unless the little one is involved of course) Things need to be planned well in advance, with the expectation, that plans may get cancelled due to last minute emergencies. That being said, you need to step up the game with these dates. Very rarely do we get to go out and have an alone night. So when we do, we like it planned and romantic. It doesn’t have to be expensive, but the surprise of even babysitting arrangements is huge points to us.  The dates will be amazing and  highly appreciated, because deep down we wish to spend more time alone with you.

2. LIFE IS BUSY- IF YOU CANT HELP…GET OUT ( a little harsh, but true)

As a single parent our daily routine consists of rushed wake ups, forced breakfasts, clothes battles, rushing to school, long work days, pick ups, sports, dinner, bedtime stories, back rubs, and mending break downs. If you cant handle the little time we have during the week day to devote right to you, this probably isn’t the right fit. The way we spend time with you is , we need you to help out, help us with supper, with mending break downs, with down time after bed. Believe me, to single parents helping us with the little things, is the most amazing and a great way to win our heart. Just recently I was reading my son a bedtime story and the man I am dating came in and listened to be part of family time. This completely melts a single parents heart, knowing someone is devoted to you and your child, without being the biological parent.

3.TRULY CARE ABOUT THEIR CHILD

We all know, our little one, is the top priority. We want someone who understands that, and will make it their top priority to. Fake-ness is spotted quickly. You need to understand most of our time is devoted to our children, so be part of that time.You need to take the child on as one of your own, and that can be a very scary concept. But if you are in it for the long run, making them your family is a must.

4. WE ALWAYS HAVE OUR GUARD UP

This is a habit we can not turn off. Even when the relationship is perfect,their is a voice in our head saying “he/she is going to hurt us”. We are sorry. Our children are number one, and always will be. We protect them from monsters in the closet, bullies at school, so we need to protect them from potential heart ache. Please don’t take this personally. We are not trying to drive you away, or be distant. We just have our protective gear up. When you see the shield in action, show us a little extra love that day, give us a hug and say you care..that’s all we need.

5.NO GAMES ALLOWED

There is no time or tolerance for games. Our lives are so jammed with sports, parent meetings, and careers, we don’t have time for this garbage.  If you have any of those tricks up your sleeve, best not to get involved in the first place. Like listed before WE HAVE OUR GUARD UP. So even if it looks like a game may come into play, your potential of lasting is slim to none. Make it clear to us by actions and vocal that no games will played.

6. WE ARE THE BEST

With all those tips, that can be scary and intimidating. But we make amazing companions.

We don’t want drama- We have enough chaos going on in our heads and lives, we probably can’t handle anymore. “keep that shit , far far away”.

We love unconditionally- If you show your potential, we will give you everything we have. We know how,we have already loved unconditionally since the positive pregnancy sign. We understand selflessness.

Sex will be great. We know what we like and want, we know how to cuddle, and the times to actually ‘make love’ are slim, so it needs to be 100% fulfilling.

Debating on switching planets, here is your survival kit. Let it be the best adventure of all time.

 

 

 

 

 

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