Dating a single parent has many up and downs, and is not the traditional dating you may be expecting. It is actually the complete opposite, like living on a whole different planet, and having to adapt to a new and ever changing atmospheric pressures, oxygen levels and lifestyles. This new planet, is not a horrible or terrifying planet, but completely different from the planet we have grown so familar with.
People who make the decision and choose to date a single parent need to know, and be prepared for this new way of living.
- GOING ON DATES IS A CHALLENGE:
Going on random romantic dates, probably is not in the cards. ( unless the little one is involved of course) Things need to be planned well in advance, with the expectation, that plans may get cancelled due to last minute emergencies. That being said, you need to step up the game with these dates. Very rarely do we get to go out and have an alone night. So when we do, we like it planned and romantic. It doesn’t have to be expensive, but the surprise of even babysitting arrangements is huge points to us. The dates will be amazing and highly appreciated, because deep down we wish to spend more time alone with you.
2. LIFE IS BUSY- IF YOU CANT HELP…GET OUT ( a little harsh, but true)
As a single parent our daily routine consists of rushed wake ups, forced breakfasts, clothes battles, rushing to school, long work days, pick ups, sports, dinner, bedtime stories, back rubs, and mending break downs. If you cant handle the little time we have during the week day to devote right to you, this probably isn’t the right fit. The way we spend time with you is , we need you to help out, help us with supper, with mending break downs, with down time after bed. Believe me, to single parents helping us with the little things, is the most amazing and a great way to win our heart. Just recently I was reading my son a bedtime story and the man I am dating came in and listened to be part of family time. This completely melts a single parents heart, knowing someone is devoted to you and your child, without being the biological parent.
3.TRULY CARE ABOUT THEIR CHILD
We all know, our little one, is the top priority. We want someone who understands that, and will make it their top priority to. Fake-ness is spotted quickly. You need to understand most of our time is devoted to our children, so be part of that time.You need to take the child on as one of your own, and that can be a very scary concept. But if you are in it for the long run, making them your family is a must.
4. WE ALWAYS HAVE OUR GUARD UP
This is a habit we can not turn off. Even when the relationship is perfect,their is a voice in our head saying “he/she is going to hurt us”. We are sorry. Our children are number one, and always will be. We protect them from monsters in the closet, bullies at school, so we need to protect them from potential heart ache. Please don’t take this personally. We are not trying to drive you away, or be distant. We just have our protective gear up. When you see the shield in action, show us a little extra love that day, give us a hug and say you care..that’s all we need.
5.NO GAMES ALLOWED
There is no time or tolerance for games. Our lives are so jammed with sports, parent meetings, and careers, we don’t have time for this garbage. If you have any of those tricks up your sleeve, best not to get involved in the first place. Like listed before WE HAVE OUR GUARD UP. So even if it looks like a game may come into play, your potential of lasting is slim to none. Make it clear to us by actions and vocal that no games will played.
6. WE ARE THE BEST
With all those tips, that can be scary and intimidating. But we make amazing companions.
We don’t want drama- We have enough chaos going on in our heads and lives, we probably can’t handle anymore. “keep that shit , far far away”.
We love unconditionally- If you show your potential, we will give you everything we have. We know how,we have already loved unconditionally since the positive pregnancy sign. We understand selflessness.
Sex will be great. We know what we like and want, we know how to cuddle, and the times to actually ‘make love’ are slim, so it needs to be 100% fulfilling.
Debating on switching planets, here is your survival kit. Let it be the best adventure of all time.