“Skinny”, “anorexic”, “body of a 12 year old boy” are just a few of the comments I have received from society. My whole life I have been“blessed” as some would say, with being extra skinny. Chances of me having curves, or to look like a ‘woman’ are just not in my genetic makeup. I balance between a size 0 to 1 pant size, and always buy extra small shirts. Weight gain diets are usually new year and summer resolutions for me. Where I consume as much protein and calories as possible, Never ever seeing any results. The only weight gain I was blessed with, was when I was pregnant and gained 50lbs, which disappeared days after birth of my son. Lucky boy has been blessed with my genes…
Every family event I attend I hear ” go eat something, you are way to skinny”. Getting reminded constantly to eat from friends. Just last week I was faced with a social shaming. ” are you ok?, you are clearly not takingcare of yourself. You need to start eating, and definitely stop wearing black, it makes you look way to thin”…..what do you say to this? I grin and bear it. while cursing them up and down in my head.
SO why is Skinny Shaming OK?
We see it everyday, From magazines, news, social media, and in our own reality. People getting criticized for not having curves, or not being above a size 7. Social media post consist of “guys want something to hold on to, not a stick” Why is this OK? Is this not as bad as calling someone with curves fat? overweight? or to eat less calories?
I remember walking through a small town fair, with a past boyfriend. In small towns everyone knows everyone, So clearly the friend that walked up to us, knew I have always been skinny, and am not just starving myself. The friend told my boyfriend at the time ” How do you sleep with her, it would be like sleeping with a 12 year old boy” Well thank you, for making me feel GREAT about myself. For weeks after I looked in the mirror wishing I could just gain 10lbs, going out in public was anxiety filled. The comments were just so overwhelming. Feeling ashamed, ugly, and not up to standards are just some of the horrible thoughts skinny shaming causes.
SO let me ask you this.
Would you call someone overweight? Fat? or tell them to stop eating so much?
Absolutely not. That is inappropriate, morally wrong, and clearly rude. There is numerous of reasons why someone may give the image of being overweight. Body type, health reasons, stress to name a few. So is being skinny any different? are we not allowed to have a thin body type without being anorexic, and on top of it shamed for, all because we don’t match the other 90% of the population.
For some reason society has come to the conclusion If you are skinny, it must be intentional, and making it known to us, is acceptable. In reality we are just as self conscious as any other human being. Finding imperfections about our bodies.
All shaming is wrong race, weight, disability, or any other difference. We as a society need to take this into consideration, and accept and understand everyone is and should be different. How boring would the world be if EVERYONE WAS THE SAME!